Types of Triggers
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Triggers are of three general kinds (with
overlapping aspects):
Program cues, both generic and specific
Program cues are triggers that are deliberately
set by perpetrators during controlled situations. Generic
program cues are purposeful associations which initiate internal
enactment of thoughts and feelings from past double-bind
scenarios, so that we are bound by closed systems of thought and
continue to be enslaved without the necessity of direct
monitoring and control by those perpetrators. For example, words
or symbols which cause thoughts and feelings that reinforce
dogma or belief systems. (“I belong to them because ...”)
Specific program cues are objects, images,
phrases, sensory stimulants, etc., which are designed to set off
a prescribed sequence of thoughts and actions, or to make a self
state with limited consciousness and functional experience
available for use by a perpetrator. A specific cue might be a
word in combination with a symbol, for example, or an object
used to induce trance state (such as a prayer wheel). The first
example might be activated through an associative thought chain
in which the word and symbol have specific meaning to a part of
the self who believes that s/he has received a paranormal or “divine”
message to carry out proscribed actions. In the second
example, the use, or even the sight, of the object cue will
cause the survivor to drop into trance, in which suggestible and
previously conditioned self states interpret subsequent input as
cues for their compliance.
Reminders, both generic and specific
Reminder triggers are any whose associative
responses influence present experiences with aspects of
unresolved trauma. Examples of generic reminder triggers are
those such as holidays, relationships, feelings, situations,
etc., which remind us of the past in such a way that we cannot
remain conscious of the present as such. Specific reminder
triggers are, for example, the color red, which might remind us
of blood (provoking feelings of panic); the smell of alcohol,
which might remind us of being raped; feces, which remind us of
being shamed and punished, etc.
Echoes
Echo triggers are situations in which the
emotional dynamics replicate, in some way, a past relationship
of abuse. For example, when a survivor who is now a mother is
confronting a daughter about lying; or when a survivor is
expected to be able to do something they are unable to do. In
the first example, the survivor might become flooded with
feelings from her own mother’s denial of her abuse, and be
unable to differentiate appropriately to handle the present
situation. In the second, the survivor might experience a “crisis
of expectation,” in which s/he is flooded with rage or
suicidal, helpless or hopeless feelings. Since double-bind
conditioning often demands that the victim perform impossible
acts, with a life or death outcome for which the victim is made
to feel responsible, situations which replicate this dynamic
cause frequent, overwhelming reactions in survivors.
Managing Triggers
There are specific things that survivors can do
to prepare themselves to take advantage of the situation of
being triggered in order to process their feelings and
memories. They can also be self-protective by giving
themselves permission in advance to stop, if necessary, if they
are already overloaded, if it is currently unsafe to process, or
if they are not able to be supported or support themselves
sufficiently at the time.
If a survivor is currently vulnerable, yet
wishes to use the opportunity triggerous material provides to
process, she or he should prepare for that possibility:
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Make sure you are in a comfortable
situation;
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Keep your journal, a drawing pad,
reprogramming worksheets (there is a copy on the other
side), comforting toys and some tissues handy.
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It is often helpful to keep a positive or
inspiring object, image or guardian “icon” visible
.. something that reminds you of your desire to heal.
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Remind yourself of your positive motives and
possible short-term consequences .. and your reasons
for risking them by processing your thoughts &
feelings. It is often helpful to make some message
signs (block letters, so kid alters or vulnerable inner
child state can read them). For example:
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This story may trigger my feelings
and/or memories.
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I can stop reading if I need to.
If I am very upset, I can ______ until I feel
better. (Fill in the blank with what works best for
you, for example, “listen to some music” “hold my
teddy bear” “call a friend” “write in my journal”
“yell, and pound on a pillow” “mash some clay”
“draw ugly pictures” etc.)
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I am choosing to process triggers (or
“read recovery material, which might be triggering”)
so I can heal by honoring and comforting my pain I
do not want to add more pain through self punishment in
the present. I am willing to release old pain, but
I do not want to become confused by it so that I think I
need to be hurt any more.
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Be aware that narratives can sometimes
open up associated memory fragments (a memory “bank”)
which can seem mixed, confused or contradictory.
Remember, you have time to sort out all of the
pieces. Things are not always as they first
appear. Trust your feelings as valid to your
experience.
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Remember to ask yourself, “If I knew a
child who just experienced what I am remembering or feeling,
what would he or she need to feel comforted?” Then provide
for yourself as best as you are able.
If
you are going to work with ritual abuse survivors, you
must also get educated if you want to be effective. And
you must learn to be humble. Trauma survivors do not need
to be around ignorant, modern-day Pharisees. Survivors in
pain need people who will connect with them on an
emotional level, get right down in there where they are,
and listen. --Kathleen Sullivan |
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